Understanding Boys
What kinds of communication can we expect from boys?
Well, in general, boys are less able to put their feelings into words, especially on deep emotional issues. This is partly because of biology and partly a result of how we bring boys up in America. Some of the boys in the book are very articulate -- because we worked very hard to help them open up! It may be a long-term process before the boy can put things into words. In fact, part of action talk is honoring action as communication. When a boy is washing the car, getting the newspaper, or wanting to go for a run, he's talking to you in action terms. That doesn't mean you can't respond in your own words. You might say, "I wonder if that was a way of telling me how much you care about me" or "I love what you have done with that car" or even "I really love you." That will create the bond and some kids will say, "Oh, I love you too," and all of sudden something new starts to happen.
How can we recognize when a boy is depressed or in emotional trouble?
The Boy Code, that silence, does make it more difficult. Boys' communication of depression is through behavior; it's action or inaction oriented. Some of the earliest signs that a boy is depressed or suicidal are acts of bravado or risk taking -- using drugs or driving too fast -- that he didn't do before. Often we say they are bad boys or they are having a bad time or "boys will be boys" when, in fact, this is a way of telling us, "Look I'm really sad or helpless."
Sunday, June 8, 2008
Boys in My Classroom
Boys in My Classroom CD E-Library $99
A new CD E-library that shows in practical ways, how teachers can get the best out of the boys in their classrooms. There is no doubt that boys need a different approach. It is often felt that girls alone have emotional needs, but that is not true. Boys need reassurance and confidence boosting as well. The challenge for teachers is how to communicate so that boys will listen, be motivated to get involved and channel their energy. It is vital to have an understanding so that boys can be prevented from underachieving.
Boys in My Classroom includes:
Boys in the Picture, Declining Achievement, Must Boys be Boys, Raising Boys Achievement
Education of Boys Report, Boys Resources
Boys Behaving Badly CD E-Library $99
A new CD E-library full of behaviour management ideas and strategies. This E-library also contains thorough research on boys behaviour patterns.
Includes
Disruptive Behaviour Behaviour Management Plan Taming the Classroom Rebels Yoga and Boys Behaviour
Male Role Models/Mentoring Boys coupled with Boys Photobox $99
It sounds like good communication is the key to mentoring. Can you explain "action talk?"
Action talk involves giving boys a little bit of space, letting them come to us, creating what I call a shame-free zone or safety zone -- both physically and emotionally -- and then playing or doing something with them. It could be Legos or chess, playing baseball or going for a walk. Many people find that going for a ride in the car is perfect; it's encapsulated, it's safe, and the boy can look away. In that safe environment, while doing something, you don't bombard him with questions, you just let him know that you are there, and you will genuinely listen. If he doesn't talk, you can give him an entry like, "You seem a little down lately," or you can share something about yourself. That kind of safe environment, that kind of using action first, without pushing to words, allows boys to open up. Sometimes to tear up and cry, sometimes to talk eloquently, sometimes to just begin a conversation that can be helped along by the adult.
This CD E-library contains readings and advice on male role modelling and mentoring boys for improved achievement. The Boys PhotoBox is a compilation of copyright-free graphics of male iconography plus the informative PhotoBox manual.
Includes:
ABC School Based Mentoring
Best Practice
Boys Mentoring Policy
Mentor Report
Positive Male Role Models
Underachievers Report
Using mentors
A new CD E-library that shows in practical ways, how teachers can get the best out of the boys in their classrooms. There is no doubt that boys need a different approach. It is often felt that girls alone have emotional needs, but that is not true. Boys need reassurance and confidence boosting as well. The challenge for teachers is how to communicate so that boys will listen, be motivated to get involved and channel their energy. It is vital to have an understanding so that boys can be prevented from underachieving.
Boys in My Classroom includes:
Boys in the Picture, Declining Achievement, Must Boys be Boys, Raising Boys Achievement
Education of Boys Report, Boys Resources
Boys Behaving Badly CD E-Library $99
A new CD E-library full of behaviour management ideas and strategies. This E-library also contains thorough research on boys behaviour patterns.
Includes
Disruptive Behaviour Behaviour Management Plan Taming the Classroom Rebels Yoga and Boys Behaviour
Male Role Models/Mentoring Boys coupled with Boys Photobox $99
It sounds like good communication is the key to mentoring. Can you explain "action talk?"
Action talk involves giving boys a little bit of space, letting them come to us, creating what I call a shame-free zone or safety zone -- both physically and emotionally -- and then playing or doing something with them. It could be Legos or chess, playing baseball or going for a walk. Many people find that going for a ride in the car is perfect; it's encapsulated, it's safe, and the boy can look away. In that safe environment, while doing something, you don't bombard him with questions, you just let him know that you are there, and you will genuinely listen. If he doesn't talk, you can give him an entry like, "You seem a little down lately," or you can share something about yourself. That kind of safe environment, that kind of using action first, without pushing to words, allows boys to open up. Sometimes to tear up and cry, sometimes to talk eloquently, sometimes to just begin a conversation that can be helped along by the adult.
This CD E-library contains readings and advice on male role modelling and mentoring boys for improved achievement. The Boys PhotoBox is a compilation of copyright-free graphics of male iconography plus the informative PhotoBox manual.
Includes:
ABC School Based Mentoring
Best Practice
Boys Mentoring Policy
Mentor Report
Positive Male Role Models
Underachievers Report
Using mentors
Boys in my Classroom
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52/145 Canterbury Road Toorak VIC 3142
Email your order to: edvantage@primusonline.com.au
Or Facsimile your Order Form to 03 8648 6304
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